Where does one draw a line?

Yes marriage changes a lot of things.

For example, a messy house never bothered me much before I was married!

Why this suddenly?

Well, currently at work I am going through a phase I call ‘madness’

During ‘madness’ you eat-drink-sleep office.

There is so much work to do that you dread weekends because that means there will be a sudden break to the madness and picking it up where you left will be even more difficult.

It is a phase in which you can expect calls at 11:30 pm (on a Sunday) and also calling your boss / agency at any such time is considered perfectly normal.

‘Taking leave’ is a taboo word and anyone uttering it risks being killed merely by looks.

You wake up at 5 am suddenly and start making mental to-do list.

Then you wake up at 5:15 am worrying you may forget this to-do list and hence note it in your phone in whatever spellings you can possibly think of in the half zonked state.

Yes. Madness. That is what is happening right now.

So, this Madness usually does manage to bring out the best in me... I can put in 25 hours in a day and work like a mad woman and get through the madness with job substantially well done.

But yes, in the wake, the house gets messy. Really messy.

And it did not matter when I stayed alone or with roomies.

But now it does. It also matters when the bai does not show up on time. And in the madness, Bai is also on my mind! (I am so surprised).

Marriage changes and how.

It bothers me when I realise that the weekend just went by without me going grocery shopping or simply going out with Salil.

It does pinch when for a few evenings consecutively I go off to sleep on my laptop and wake up and leave home without exchanging a few coherent non-work related sentences with him.

And it bothers me that the fridge is not stocked and it bothers me that the kitchen has utensils all over the place...

And then i wonder is it worth it? Where does one draw a line? What is the whole point?

How long should these phases be allowed to last? 1 month, may be 2? A year?

... and how does one make up for them?

PS: I only have like 5 mins to write and post this, so please excuse any typos.