Vicky Cristina Barcelona








There are 5 women in this movie.
  1. Vicky
  2. Cristina
  3. Sally tabachnick
  4. Maria Elena
  5. Judy
And every woman I have met falls in either one of these categories... (you are welcome to point out a 6th one) or more than one depending on the phase in her life.
For eg. A vicky,if after discovering what she wants, goes ahead and has it, despite the consequences, however disastrous they are, would come close to being Maria Elena. Else she will end up being a Judy.

A Cristina, if she overcomes her chronic dissatisfaction, will either choose to be a vicky or a maria elena or a judy or a sally. She either fights for 'the meaning' or gives it up totally… And mostly she will be forever resigned - like judy.

A maria elena will always be maria elena.
And a judy will always be judy.

A sally can become a vicky if she accidently discovers someday that life can be more interesting (if she tastes blood… and then cant help but have more of it) and then go the judy way or the elena way.
Mostly judy.
I guess the best way to be is to be maria elena. Tough though it is. Coz her life is one of no pretentions.
She believes in her philosophy of life, which she has herself discovered and not adopted from the society.
Though, the character they have shown in the movie is wasted (which is a little exagerated), which is partly coz she doesnt fall for the right guys and partly coz it is tough to survive in materialistic society with a non-practical viewpoint.
Sally's life is not beautiful. Her life is 'non-ugly'.

Sally is the blissful category. her life is where she has shut her thinking doors and lives blissfully ignorant of a possibly more meaningful life she could have had.
Or better still, she is aware but prefers the simple life.
The scary category is the Judy category.
Its when it is shit, and you know it is shit that it becomes painful. Ignorance is bliss as they as say… this is the category when you prefer adventurous life, but get a simple one.
Or when you thought you prefer simple life, but got a taste of the adventurous one, and once you have sort of tasted blood, cant like the simple food you once thought was delicious.
And its too in-your-face for ignorance...

Vicky. I guess many a girls of today will relate to her. It is not difficult to fall for mr cookie cutter mold. Its too tempting coz it is so easy to get the social acceptance with it. Coz they fit perfectly in the society we live in currently. Plus life is a cake with them.
And plus, since you are in that society, they are not too difficult to find either.
But that is about the social part of it. Perfect in social terms. What about the personal terms?
That is where the problem comes. They are perfect for this society. So much so that they are equally calculated, practical and well mannered (read almost pretentious at times) in their personal lives too… zero adventure therefore. No roller coaster stuff.
Boring, if you are a vicky (but not for sally).

Cristina.
Chronic dissatisfaction. That is what maria elena says cristina has.
she knows exactly what she doesn’t want. Her ideas about life are depressing. She believes that materialistic things are not what life is about. She looks for deeper meaning of life. But is at the same time scared to find it.
She is the one who is, part in the 'materialistic' world, and drawn towards to the 'meaningful' one and is not able to leave either.
She keeps travelling between the two. She is comfortable in the 'meaningful' world, but then after some time starts getting scared of it not lasting forever. She is scared of shutting exit options.
The reality strikes after some time, leaving her wanting to go back to the 'at liberty' phase. It is so comforting to be in a position where you still have the choice, even if that means u never take any decision - but always have the option to do either.
She longs to be in that phase forever. She wants everything, and so she gets nothing.

Maria Elena. She is what cristina longs to be. It is that life she wants to live but at the same time she is not sure if she will be able to go through with it forever. What if she gets over her fascination for it someday?what if she finds the deeper meaning and doesn’t like the meaning and prefers the materialistic world?
She loves her life too much to ever regret anything.
But not maria elena. She knows the real 'meaning' of life. Which for her is to enjoy the beauty of nature. Of love. Of feelings. And she believes in it. And she lives it. She is a true artist. One who truly appreciates the beauty of the world. And is gifted to express what she feels in multiple ways.
But that also leaves her quite crazed. It is a road less travelled. And it is usually bumpy.
All in all, a nice movie. Loved the music too.

lazy saturday

Its that kind of a day... U got no work to do, u r alone at home..

It’s a holiday and u r online catching up with old friends…. 

And then you are talking to one friend from 'phase-Infy' of your life and one from 'phase-bajaj' and another from 'phase-irma'… 

and your mind travels from one point in time to another at the speed at which u switch between gtalk windows… 

Your mind is then all groggy because of all the travelling and at that speed… and it therefore suddenly stops somewhere in between these 3 phases… 

And u realise you r missing those phases… Though they were not really the best days of your life or anything. 

Why? U then ask this to a friend from your 'phase-forever' : neha… 

She tells you it is only because you are totally vella… she tells you to stop getting so irritatingly and stupidly emotional.. And instead to get a life… 

So then you determinedly log off gtalk and facebook, shut down your laptop, get up to make yourself a cup of coffee and then… 

You go off to sleep… c'mon… it is a Saturday after all :) 

No life transforming things ever happen on a saturday anyways! :)

Its like getting complimented for creativity from God himself

I don’t think many know about my being super lucky recently.

I got a room partner who is a superb cook - I mean a really really superb one AND she enjoys cooking AND she expects me to help her by staying away when she is at it :) 

Indeed I couldn't get luckier, could i? Today however I decided that I am going to give her a 'taste' of my cooking ability…

Nervous though I was - my determination kept me at it…

and I ventured into the kitchen with my phone...

 I chose a rather simple meal - khichdi and Amsul kadhi which was simple yet yummy, and quite interestingly, exotic in its own way.

 With the help of instructions from my mother on phone, I finally managed to put together a decent looking meal.

 And then I served it to her. She picked up the spoon, dipped it into the kadhi, took a mouthful of it and said "you aint a bad cook! This is indeed great!"

 and then she not only took 1 but 2 more servings and wiped off the vessel of the last drop of the kadhi...

 I felt as if I got a compliment in creativity from God himself ! Yeah people - I am a 'not bad' cook alright! :)

comfortably numb

Human mind has its own way of dealing with crap. It too has a defense mechanism similar to your body.

It subconsciously activates the ‘numbness’ mode of your mind when it is hit by any emotional stress
In this phase, you don’t feel anything at all. You are in your own world. drifting away...

It is a no-man’s land. It aint ‘you’ and it aint ‘you’ either. Meaning, it aint the ‘you’ before your ‘comfortably numb’ phase began and then it is not the ‘you’ that you will be after it ends.

They show it in movies all the time, don’t they? The actor is in a sort of a trance… wherein he is just lost in transition… And then the brainwave hits him and he is transformed! He ain’t the same person anymore and he suddenly has all the answers to deal with the problem!

T    This system helps in many a ways like ensuring that you are a changed person so that you know how to deal with this problem, it gives you time to gather yourself and protects you when the storm is hardest

In most people this system is automated subconsciously.
And then there are the idiots who thrive on emotions and therefore don’t have a strong 'numbing' system.

Over time, they have fed themselves so much of emotional stuff that the system has weakened.
They all the time fail to understand how it is so easy for some people to deal with emotional stress while they struggle with it endlessly.

Now I know. It is the 'comfortably numbing' system at work that helps.
Can anyone please tell me how to activate this one?

New look to the blog

After 3 hours of searching, editing, and mending, finally I have 
managed to change the look of my blog...
I wish blogger had some in-built themes like these. 
Then it would have been easier to do the settings..
The ones they have are too formal (read boring).
but hey i actually did some HTML coding to edit the layout!
felt nostalgic... :)

एक इच्छा होती मनि लहानपणी पासून

With MBA comes to end another hostel phase of life..

Have come a long long way from the cry baby that mom n dad left at COEP hostel.

Felt homesick many times after that, but the homesickness of leaving home for the first time was desperate.

In those depressing moments of the first 2 months of engineering, the following super-senti poem was written by me. 

PS 1: my aaji can cry every time she read it. every single time :)

PS 2: Kindly adjust with errors in the marathi typing. 

एक इच्छा होती मनि लहान पणी पासून पहावे एकदा होस्टेल मध्ये राहून ... बारावीचा निकाल लागला बाहेरगावच्या कॉलेज मध्ये प्रवेश झाला... मनाला किंचित हुर-हुर लागली पुन्हा आई वडिलान्सोबत राहणार मी कधी? पण एक इच्छा होती मनि लहान पणी पासून पहावे एकदा हॉस्टल मध्ये राहून... अखेरीस ती सकाळ उजाडली घर सोडायची ती वेळ जरा लवकरच आली

आई बाबांचा आशीर्वाद सोबतीला घेउन पाहिले मी पाऊल घरा बाहेर ठेउन डोळ्यात टचकन् पाणी आले आसवं लपवत मी हसतच निघाले कारण एक इच्छा होती मनि लहानपणीपासून पहावे एकदा होस्टेल मध्ये राहून पहिले काही दिवस खूप वाईट वाटले स्वप्नांमधे मी आईच्या कुशीत रडले उशिरा आल्यावर बाबांचा राग  नाही अभ्यासासाठी आईच मागे लागणही नाही... आजारी पडल्यावर आजिचे लाड  नाही अन लहान मोठ्या गोष्टिंवरुन ताईशी भांड्णं पण  नाही.. ठरविले मी हे कसल जगण? का होती मला एक इच्छा लहानपणीपासून की पहावे एकदा होस्टेल मधे राहून? सोडून ही जागा  जावयाचे मी ठरविले माझ्या गावीच शिक्षण घेइल वडिलाना  कळविले.. तितक्यात बाबांचे शब्द ते माझ्या कानी पडलेमाझी मुलगी तू अशी तुटणार नाहीस

निराश होउन  तू कधी परतणार नाहीस.. मेहनत  करत तुला खुप पुढे जायचय 

आई बाबांच्या स्वप्नानना मूर्त रूप तुला द्यायचाय .." ठरविले मी पूर्ण करेल ती इच्छा होती जी  मनि लहानपणीपासून

बघुया एकदा होस्टेल मध्ये राहून... वाटू लगले आहे वाट वाटली तितकी कठीण नही... होस्टेल बद्दलची पाहिलेली स्वप्ने अगदीच काही फोल नही.. अणि जपेन मी आई बाबाचा विश्वास अन जिंकुन राहिल त्या क्षितिजाला मी आज!